The story of a Number One Boy

Rayid birth Order, as developed by Denny Johnson from Rayid International, recognizes 12 distinct birth order positions in the family tree – 6 boys and six girls. Each position correlates with uniques qualities and talents which help to evolve the family. Have you ever noticed that you can’t treat or raise two children in the same family, in the same way? Have you ever wondered why they need to be treated differently in order that they reach their potential and lead happy, fulfilling lives? The more you understand children, the more effectively you are able to nurture them, support their creativity and honour their needs.

According to the Rayid Model of Birth Order, the characteristics of a first son are:
· Physically delicate
· Stubborn & independent
· Silently rebellious
· Sensitive
· Usually feels a greater connection with mother and often clashes with father.
· Loves freedom
· Can be self-sabotaging if pushed to achieve.
· Mother’s protector

I am a first son born in a small village in Northern Greece. When I was 1 year old my father came to Australia to work and my mother and I followed when I was 3 ½ years old. I was very close to my mother. On top of being a first son I was also a first grandchild and first nephew. I was adored by all my female relatives. I’m sure I was also adored by the males but they were too busy in the fields to show it. It wasn’t till I was over 16 months old that I learnt to walk because nobody would put me down. I was held all day – and loved it! Then I was suddenly torn away from the world of comfort and sent to this horrible big city called Melbourne to live with this man I hardly new called my dad and to top it all off the post man didn’t even know my name. It wasn’t good!

When I first had to start primary school I didn’t know a word of English and clutched onto my mother’s skirt and howled for the first month or so, begging her not to leave. I was a vegetarian till I was 12 years old because I couldn’t bear to eat the animals I used to have as pets but my father really wanted me to play soccer and thought I wouldn’t grow so forced me to eat meat. I did. However, I didn’t become the soccer star he had hoped, instead I became a fat Greek boy who was perfect at making pizza dough because I spent so much time with my mum in the kitchen.

This short summary of my early life highlights to me that I am almost a ‘textbook’ One Boy. I did “live as if in a fog – particularly up to the age of 16”. I was very close to my mother and felt like the world would end if she wasn’t around – particularly when I first arrived in Australia. As I grew older I would always take my mother’s side when she was arguing with my father. Her relationship with my father is quite argumentative and not very emotionally close so she relied on me a lot. When I was 16 years old I was almost desperate to spread my wings and soar so I planned a trip on my own back to our village in Greece. I was so excited, I lost 20 kilograms and I feel like that is when my life really started and the beginning of cutting the umbilical cord which my mother vehemently opposed and tried to hold onto with myriad brilliant guilt tactics. As a ‘good Greek boy’ it would have been difficult to move out of home so I moved away overseas for a few years to study in America and live in Japan which is where I finally cut the umbilical cord much to my mother’s disgust. I still can picture her face as she was waving me off at the airport saying “I hope this is the last time you do this to us”. We have a much healthier relationship now but I still find an incredible feeling of peace and joy when she actually listens to me and shows me respect.

I had a sister born a year younger than me but she died at 5 months of age from pneumonia. I now have two living siblings – my sister Jenny is 5 years younger and my brother George is 10 years younger than me. With my siblings I definitely took on the role of protector and father figure. For example, my brother George has Cystic fibrosis so he needed lots of special care as a youngster. My parents both worked shift work so they could look after us kids but there was an hour and a half overlap where my mother had to go to work but my father hadn’t got home so I had to look after him – even though I was 10 years old at the time. We are all very close even now in our adult lives.

The Rayid birth order concepts have highlighted my relationship with my parents and siblings and despite my need for independence (I moved to a country town 3 hours from my family), ways that I can further blossom these relationships.
In the upcoming IIPA (International Iridology Practitioners Association) webinar (April 12th at 3pm EST) I will go through the birth order positions and how I have used Rayid Birth order to help my children thrive. I will go through how each of my five children have totally different needs and need different boundaries and ways to help them be the best that they can be. I do hope you’ll join us.

Register on the Website: www.iridologyassn.org “Webinars” link

Christos Miliankos